When two persons start living in a relationship, there is always a honeymoon period. When that honeymoon period is over, the reality precedes and the reality is that most of the relations are not based on whom we love, it is just based on liking.
People now don’t know what the real meaning of a relationship is.
When we fall in love, we often go crazy.
We feel we can’t just stop thinking about that special person. He or she is the one.
They are our ultimate soulmate and we can do anything for them.
Sounds so good, right?
Yes, we become poets and creative when we fall in love and also when we have breakups, but for how long it will continue?
Ask yourself, have a look at the present. Love comes and goes within a second.
We can’t describe why it happened?
Is she/he guilty?
Or did I do anything wrong?
Is she/he cheating me?
And that is how the Battle of Confusion and Regrets starts.
Normally, what is happening nowadays is that we are hiding our true identity just to impress someone we love.
At the beginning of any relationship, a person tries to become an ideal individual fulfilling all the requirements of the person he or she loves and that’s the point where the actual problem starts!
A person cannot act too long or hide their actual behavior or mind-set for a long duration of time and when the other person gets to know about the actual mind-set of that individual is, that’s when the ‘Breakup Phase’ starts.
We are not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We are not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We are quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet.
This leads to problems in relationships like arguments, communication gap, growing apart, lack of attention or appreciation, incompatibility.
Arguments are a part of relationships and are quite normal. Rather than piling up the problem, try to discuss it with your partner what makes you unhappy. Try to keep the problem on one side and you both on the other side, to find a solution to that.
2. Communication Gap
Communication creates most of the problem in modern-day relationships. When a talker dates a non-talker, they find it quite difficult to discuss things and very often they assume about each other rather than discussing the issue.
3. Growing Apart
No doubt people change with time but the problem arises when one of them changes and the other one does not.
To keep the relationship alive the other one has to accept the ‘new’ changed version of the partner.
After a certain time, every relationship becomes boring, there is a phase where you both love each other but things don’t have a spark like they used to have before. When this happens, don’t blame each other for the same. Rather be a part of the solution to get out of the phase.
You never know what a person is going through or has been through in the past. They may even get affected by external pressure. Try not to keep it all inside and suffer all alone but share it with your better half, how you feel and face it together.
Finally, if you want a healthy and long-lasting relationship, don’t insult each other, don’t play the Blame game.
Focus on each other’s positive side, respect each other’s boundaries, forgive and accept them the way they are rather than expecting a whole new person who is suitable according to your needs.
Love is knowing someone’s weakness and not taking advantage of that.
Love is knowing someone’s flaws and choosing to accept them.
Love is giving someone the power to destroy you and yet trusting them not to.
Ankita Behera is an undergraduate in a bachelor of technology. An amateur writer and a keen nature lover who loves traveling. When asked about life, she says that she is trying to manipulate the truths & realities of her life and weave meaningful stories out of them.